Posts tagged “Personal Coaching”

 
Perfectionism but is it perfect
Claude Monet was a perfectionist.  
 
Well it worked for him then didn't he? One of the world's most famous impressionist painters and one of my favourites. Maybe, but in the process he destroyed many paintings, even 15 destined to open an exhibition.  
 
He concluded his ' life had been nothing but a failure'. 
It's great being a business owner isn't it?  
We have the luxury of being able to have the flexibility we want which is fantastic! 
 
However .. how often do you find yourself doing that thing that is an art form. It takes lots of practice .. yep I'm talking about PROCRASTINATION! 
 
The art of wasting time. Doing stuff that is not connected in any way to generating income or even doing the other 'top priority' tasks. 
 
The impact of procrastinating on your business is HUGE! It's up to us if we succeed so why do we do it? 
Have you got a personal trainer in your life?  
 
I have. It's tough .. They are always there with their beady eye watching what you are up to, challenging behaviour and actions that don't fit with your plan for success.  
 
They challenge you out of your comfort zone, help you rid yourselves of those limiting beliefs you've maybe had since you were rubbish at games at school ( you know nearly always picked last for the team!) but mainly they hold you to account for the actions you have chosen to take. 
 
If you’ve boarded an aeroplane to fly away on holiday, then you’ve heard the flight attendant’s safety chat. 
 
You know the one – where the exits are, that your life jacket is under your seat and how to put it on, inflate it and blow the whistle and if the cabin pressure drops then the oxygen masks will drop from above your head and you need to use them. 
 
Just pondering on that last bit though .. don’t they always tell you to put yours on first before helping children and those struggling around you? 
 
As children we are taught to be polite to other people and offer our sweeties first to others. In fact, if you think back it was almost as if everyone else should come first and it was very rude to just think of yourself. That of course would be selfish! 
 
So why when we are flying on a plane should we do exactly the opposite then? 
 
I just didn’t have the time – 
 
The time to write my blogs 
The time to write my book 
The time to develop new programmes or products 
The time to just think about my business 
The time to just stop and be 
 
Do you ever feel like that? 
 
It’s a spiral of feeling frustrated as you know you need to do all the stuff, but you just can’t see how to get the space. 
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Steve came to have coaching with me because he was struggling to get any new clients. He didn’t really feel he had a sustained relationship with any of his clients and felt they didn’t warm to him as a person. 
 
He’d go along to networking meetings and feel the odd one out. He didn’t really connect with anyone and leave feeling down and despondent. 
 
He told me that he really wasn’t the person he thought he should be in business. He wasn’t like others in his field, but he pretended to be when he met clients and potential contacts. When he got clients he charged a low fee and was at his wits end thinking he ought to call it a day and go and get a job! 
 
So I asked him a question. A question which floored him to be quite honestly. I asked him to take time before he answered and to answer me truthfully. So let me ask you the same question… 
 
HERE IT IS !!! 
 
No I don’t actually mean the plumbing in your house … I mean those you spend your time with! 
 
Maybe it's time to reflect on your plumbing as you read this ... 
 
You know the sorts .. the ones who are always miserable, see the worst in every situation, don’t want you to do very well because they aren’t. They suck your energy. They are DRAINS. 
 
The other sorts are the folks around who are always inspiring you, they may challenge your negative thinking, seeing the positive in every situation and just make you feel good. They lift you up. They are RADIATORS. 
Jane always wore black. She sometimes added a muted coloured scarf but generally she wore black. I’m not convinced black was her colour, if you’d have asked one of those colour analysts they may have agreed with me, but it was her colour of choice. 
 
So why did she wear black all of the time? 
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